Beautiful, but quiet

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Facebook has started to remind ourselves of our memories, things shared in the past. I find them funny and lovely – usually the memories are something happy and positive – good moments, that we have wanted to share. But obviously, there are some other things too, things that other people have posted on your profile, posts about people that you have lost and etc.

Today, Facebook reminded me of a guy, that posted on my profile. It was some game, where you needed to post your first impressions of a person on his or her profile. The post said “Beautiful, but quiet”.

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As in, I am beautiful, but not good enough – not entertaining enough – certainly not the light of the party. On the comment section we changed a few words and the guy asked me why I was so quiet and I responded with something like ‘it’s always the quiet ones’. What I was trying to say with that, was that I had more on my mind, than what was seen on the outside. What I was desperately trying to signal, was that I was worth getting to know to, but I wasn’t one of those, who let people close easily.

Well – I hardly knew that guy and remembering that time, I was hanging out with friends, that I am no longer in contact with.

But I still sometimes hear that accusation. Being quiet – there must be something wrong with me? Am I not happy?

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And there lays the mistake – thinking, that only people, who are constantly talking, laughing and smiling are happy. People, who make friends easily and socialize around. People who let it be known, let it be heard.

To be honest, I’m not really sure why I started to write about this subject in the first place. I’m not sure, if I know what I really want to say with it. But what I do know, is that there is a certain peace in knowing yourself, knowing your worth and appreciating your life. That peace creates a happy feeling, that doesn’t only show on your lips, but feels all the way in your feet.

Sometimes all you need is to not to talk with people, but to simply know that they are there.

And if it looks like it’s beautiful, but quiet – so be it. I was never about much noise anyway.

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Photos & hair: Susanna Poméll/Healthyhair

How to grow out your natural hair colour

growing my own hair colour ashy blonde

how to grow out my hair and maintain a beautiful colour

If I could go back in time, there would be one thing, I would do differently. And that is, not dyeing or bleaching my hair. Ever. My hair color experiments started very young – I have tried red, peach, black and different shades of blonde. It is just so easy to want something, that you don’t have and hate everything, that you do have. I used to hate my hair colour, my hair type (curly) and so on.

Only now that I’ve gotten older, I’ve actually come to realize, that my natural hair colour is pretty bomb. The perfect colour, really. It’s light and ashy and it has natural highlights from the sun. And after so many experiments, I’ve firmly decided, to grow it out.

I said this to my hairdresser. I said, that I want my natural colour no matter what – even if my hair looked yellow compared to my natural colour. I was done with hair dyes and especially with bleaches. With everything that has happened in my life, I’ve kinda taken a kinder approach to my looks, trying not to judge everything and accept myself as I am, imperfect.

But on my last visit to the salon,  my hairdresser had the perfect solution to my so called problem. She said we could tone the hair with a lightweight dye, that doesn’t change the colour too much or damage the hair. So we did just that, plus we cut the dry ends. Cutting your hair while growing it is pretty important too. That way it looks healthier – and better.

how to grow your natural hair colour

So:

My tips for growing out your natural hair colour

  • Cut it regularly. That way it looks healthier and stronger.
  • Get it toned/dyed with a gentle dye by your hairdresser. That helps to smooth the line between your roots and your lengths.
  • Use conditioners or toners to maintain the hair colour. My natural hair colour is ashy blonde, but my lengths are yellow, so I use silver products to make the hair look more or less the same colour.

And if you want your hair to grow faster, you can

  • Eat biotin. It really helps hair growth, while also strengthening your nails and lashes.
  • Try serums, that help your hair growth. I’ve been trying out this Hair tonic from O’Right, which contains caffeine and it promises to grow your hair 7cm in just two months.

Using these simple three steps, the process of growing out my natural hair colour is effortless and my hair still looks beautiful.

Thank you Susanna Pomèll/ Healthyhair for my beautiful hair. You can find her work and booking details on her site. 

Anyone else growing out their natural colour? 

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