The last time I went to psychotherapy

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I remember the last time I went to my psychotherapy. I remember it better, than I did any of the other hundred times I sat on that bench and talked. And cried. I cried a lot.

I don’t remember everything we talked about, but I do remember some minutes. A few details, that stuck in my mind and will probably stay there as important moments forever.

The last time I went to therapy. That was the time – for the first time ever really – that I truly and purely cried from happiness. My therapist was always super professional, the best therapist I could hope for. She never showed emotion, cried with me or did anything else, that would have been uncanny. But for a second there, I swear I saw her eyes water just a tiny bit.

Happiness and sadness – they are not the opposites. Pain and joy walk hand in hand through the twisted roads, through the dark forests and into the blue waters. There can’t be one without the other. I had pain, but somehow that pain had transformed into raw, imminent and imperfect happiness.

We had several different lessons during my therapy. But the final lesson, the final assignment is what I remember the best. It went as follows: Picture yourself as a young girl, sitting under a tree. If you had a chance to go there right now, what would you say to that little girl, to yourself?

And I wanted to say everything. I wanted to hold the girl in my arms and brush her tangled hair. I wanted to lull her to sleep, and tell her that there were no monsters in this world.

I wanted to tell her, that she turned out to be a master piece. That the little bruises and cracks suited it perfectly, and that no one even saw them. And that her world turned out beautiful and good. And that she would have so much, that it couldn’t all be listed.

And I wanted to assure her, that she was perfect. That she was enough – more than enough. And I don’t know if she would have got scared, if I told her that I was her. That she should look at me – how I survived and I was standing there now.

When I finally opened my mouth to say something, she turned to face me and looked straight into the familiar eyes. And I didn’t have to say a word, when we just sat there, quiet and in peace.

And that’s when I smiled, cried and knew, that I would get through anything, that life would give me. 

Psychotherapy was (besides some other things) one of the most important things to help me battle depression. No one else can give you tools and help to depression, as professionals do (=psychotherapists, psychologists or psychiatrists). You’ll never read a post from this blog, where I tell you how to work out your depression – I am not your guru and I will never become one. I can only talk about my own experience, share my thoughts and tell you, that I do believe in getting better. I read a great column (in Finnish, by Maaret Kallio) a while back, which title kinda says it all: “When your mind is broken, you shouldn’t seek help from the powers of the universe or healing hands – Even a smart person can stray to easy promises.”

The next question might be a bit personal, but feel free to share if you want to; Have you gone to therapy?

Can I just take a moment?

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Can I just take a moment to write about what’s going on right now with my life? Because my brain feels all smushy, but I still want to write to you (and take a nap).

I hate to complain or write about negative things, when I don’t feel like I’ve already overcome those things, but today I’ll have to. And anyway, that’s just life and it’s not that serious, not really.

Long story short: this Fall hasn’t been the greatest for me. I’ve had some problems with my health and I’ve been sick a lot. I feel like I’m good with the mental side of things – I find it easy to be happy and productive, when my physical self is doing at least okay. But when my body is forcing myself to bed, it’s extremely hard to stay positive. I’ve also discovered I’m a bit of a workaholic – and I hate that I haven’t been able to work as much as I’d like to.

Luckily it’s my favorite time of the year – the time, when I’m filled with childish joy and excitement. I’ve already put up a small Christmas tree, and there are lights on the balcony and a star by the window. I guess now if never is the time to take it easy, enjoy the calmness that those cold winter nights provide and be grateful for what you already have.

Hope you are all well,
x Charlotta

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Photos: Jasmin (and the jacket is hers)