3 months with a baby

Three months with a baby have gone incredibly fast. Then again, life now has a new rhythm that seems to have been going on for forever. Also, I now think of months differently. They used to last for thirty long days, now they’re a blink of an eye.

3 months with a baby

I’m pretty sure I’m living the best time of my life. And that’s always a scary thing to say out loud (what if someone comes and takes it away?). I’m really happy. I get these waves of happiness where I feel like my heart is gonna explode. It’s spring, the nature is waking up and I get to experience that with my baby. It’s almost as if seeing the beauty of trees getting their leaves for the first time ever.

 

I know all parents probably feel like this about their kids, but I feel like I won the lottery with Eva. How amazing, funny, cute and full of personality she already is. Most of the time she is happy and content. She doesn’t mind diaper change or getting dressed. If she wakes up crying, she settles pretty much as soon as you take her to your arms. She likes to play by herself – or just sit on your lap and watch you (this has allowed us to watch our favorite tv-show and eat while she chills on our lap).

Not always does she wake up happy (but even then she manages to be very cute).

But sure, there have been times where she has cried really loud and we’ve felt hopeless, not knowing how to calm her down. Evenings seem to be the most difficult time for her – and for me. As lovely as the days are, I’m always really tired in the evening. 100% ready for bed way earlier than Eva is. We’re very familiar with the term witching hour. Luckily now we’re more used to her being a bit restless in the evening and we know ways to work around that. Also her getting a lot of sleep during the day help.

Eva is sleeping pretty much 5 hours + 3 hours (now it’s changed into 7,5-8 hours without a nightly wakeup!), so we get enough of sleep. I take care of the nightly wake up (if there is one) and Risto takes care of the morning. He gets up with Eva at 5- 6 and I get to sleep a few more hours. This routine works perfectly for us. I get my much needed sleep and they get their special father-daughter time.

Sidenote: something that helps in the night a lot, is Sleepytroll. Eva sleeps in the stroller with that in sensor mode. Without that she would wake up earlier and it’s especially helpful in the early morning hours (4-6) where Eva’s sleep is more restless. It starts to shake the stroller for 3 minutes if she makes noise and moves.

Our weekly life

Going to a lunch with mom friends.

I’ve been more active and social, now that I have a baby. It’s a bit unexpected, but I love it. I think that if I just stayed at home I would be less functioning. Seeing other mom friends and working out for example are super important for my wellbeing. It also feels important to show Eva different places and have her get used to the noise in a restaurant for example.

I’m also thinking that this time will go by quickly – me not working full-time and focusing on my job as a mom. I want to enjoy it!

We have gone to BabyPilates and it’s been nice (and good for my core). Eva has either slept through it, or liked to just watch me. I have also been able to work out outside, having Eva sleep on the stroller. Eva is pretty easy to travel with. It’s only that sometimes she wakes up and wants to be hold, not be alone in the carrycot.

1. Latte mama. 2. Second hand dress find! 3. Matching with a baby.

About breastfeeding

Breastfeeding has been pretty easy for us. Eva has got a good grip right from the start and I’m producing milk more than she can eat. I mean sure, in the beginning we had to practice to find good positions, but now we got it. The only difficult thing about breastfeeding is how much time and patience it takes. She has these periods, where she’s constantly on the breast, eating every hour. It can be tiring, having her be literally on me, the whole day (or so it feels). There’s also the downside that she doesn’t really like the bottle. We’ve really had to practice that. And even now it seems to work best if I’m gone and Risto gives her the milk before she realizes she’s really hungry.

It’s also weird still having a body part that is not mine, in a way. I do look forward to having my boobs be just boobs, not food that I don’t mind other people seeing (I don’t mind breastfeeding in public).

Life keeps getting better

All in all, life with a baby is easier than I thought. Or maybe I’ve already forgot how tiring it was at first. Or I had these fears of me getting depressed again because of the baby blues (luckily it passed and was just that). Someone once compared having a baby to moving. It’s a big change, but quickly you get used to it and just get back to your routines. Sure, having a baby is a way bigger change than moving, but in a way it’s similar. Having Eva be a part of our life feels really natural.

And yes, also exhausting at times. I don’t want to act like I don’t have negative emotions or that everything always goes smoothly. For example when we did a little trip to a cottage and slept somewhere else than home, the nights were a disaster. We woke up every 1-2 hours. My humor was dark then, I’ll just say that.

 

But at the same time everything really is better than I could have hoped for. I’m enjoying our little routines as much as I can, trying not to stress about doing other things, such as work or cleaning our home. I mean I love that I have the energy to do it “all”, but I also need days where I just nap with the baby and smile (or cry at times) with her all day long.

 

My brother said that having a kid, it just keeps getting better. I love the thought of that. Things become easier as Eva grows. We’re constantly learning more about our daughter and she learns more about us. And actually, reading my first baby post, I realize already it is so much better now (and I have forgotten some things from the start).

I love being a mama. I have always (except when I was deeply depressed) found life to be really meaningful. But it feels even more meaningful now. After some difficult years and everything I’ve gone through in my childhood, I feel like I’m winning on something. And I know, life is not a competition, but one does need wins every once in a while.

I’m really thankful for these three months full of dirty diapers, new feelings, the cutest clothes of all time, great teamwork, some early mornings and late nights. Turns out life with a baby is not just about being tired all the time or not having time for anything. Life is nice.

 

About time-saving hair towels & new busy mom life

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Now, more than ever, I appreciate beauty products that make my life easier.¬†As a new mama I don’t have as much time to spend on my looks as I used to, but I try and make the most of the time I do have.

Even though I’m busy taking care of someone else, I still want to look good myself. I want to wear some makeup, have clean hair and nice clothes. Just for myself. And also probably for others. It might sounds superficial, but it really isn’t. Having the time (however little) to put into my looks, makes me feel sunny on a cloudy day.

And writing that down, I feel like I need to explain myself, which gives me even more reason to say it out loud. It’s okay to want to care about your looks, even with the baby. Mum guilt, I’m silencing you!

Finding my way as a mom – and as Charlotta

I used to never understand mums, who highlighted the fact that they were also, well, themselves. That they also did this and that. I just saw them as they were, just also as mums. Well, now I get it. I get the importance of – in a way – separating myself from the constant mum role. Of having some time for my own things or hobbies. Of also remembering Charlotta as a friend, as a blogger or as a girlfriend. Just as Charlotta.

Being a mum feels natural, yet it’s new. I’ve never been this alert the whole time. Or had this much responsibility. Or having my brain be so full and empty at the same time. I’m actually scared of scheduling dinners with friends – what if I have nothing to say and all I talk about it is the baby?

I am me, but I am also finding my way. And I guess that’s fine. I try not to stress about having my life perfectly together – or our apartment in order for that matter. Life revolves around our family now. At home. Enjoying the little things. Taking little moments for myself, so that I can be the best mom possible.

Taking care of my physical form is one way for me to do that. And oh boy, how wonderful it feels! Carrying our baby in the house, passing a mirror and seeing a refreshed Charlotta. Even if it was just concealer hiding the dark circles, that no one notices anyway. Or wearing a nice shirt, even though it’s gonna have either milk, drool or some other liquid on it (it’s just gonna happen).

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Beauty tip for moms –

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Taking a hot shower is one of those moments, I try to cherish. I breathe deeply and recharge. But I have to admit that washing my hair and drying it can feel like work. And yet I would like to enjoy clean hair and my natural curls even just at home.

So when I do wash my hair, I appreciate a product that makes the process quicker – and nicer, might I add!

If you’ve been here before, you already know I love Aquis towels. Now as a mum I have even more respect for these time-saving towels.

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I’ve raved about these towels here, here, here & here, but let’s once again go through the basics.

  • Made from special fabric that dry the hair 50% faster than a regular towel
    – while being gentle on the hair
  • They work for all hair types, but are especially great for naturally curly hair
    – they help to bring out curls and waves
  • They keep my hair healthy and shiny

It’s a joy to rave about these products time after time. I’ve used them for over 2 years now and during that time I’ve managed to grow my hair long and healthy.

I usually first gently dry my hair with the towel and then wrap my hair in a turban. The turban is a lifesaver. You can just put your hair up and let the turban work its magic, while you do important tasks. Such as entertaining the baby (or whatever hundredth task you need to do at home).

 

You could also get away with just the turban and that’s actually what I pack if I travel.

I’m wearing in the photos the alice+olivia turban. It has a silky side, which can be used to protect the hair (and curls) in the night!

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