The perfect package

happiness is

happiness life

Happiness needs to be chosen every day all over again. You don’t wake up one day, and feel happy for the rest of your life. You don’t all of a sudden love yourself, love your surroundings and feel peace and joy.

It’s a constant battle.  Some days easier – other days so hard, you’re exhausted of even the thought of trying. And you don’t have to. Even the happiest, the most positive person in the world sometimes doubts everything, feels lost and then – makes a choice.

Today I’ve felt a bit lost and unorganized – and I hate that. It’s my favorite season of the year, but it’s combined to the most stressful time of the year too. It’s that time of the year, when I put myself in a glass box up in the air – and examine everything I’ve done this year. And I’m quick to judge. Was I good? Did I do good? Was I… perfect?

I know – I always say how I am not perfect. How it’s okay. But that doesn’t mean, that I don’t have those thoughts, that they wouldn’t slip in my mind. So whenever I’m asking myself questions, that are impossible to answer to even to begin with – I stop and I make a choice. I make a choice not to focus on that thing, not to doubt myself and not to ask too much of myself.

blog lifestyle beauty

I take a few steps, stop and look at my surroundings.

I’m crazy lucky.

And I’m crazy for expecting myself to be a super human sometimes. I’m not – and I don’t even want to be, remember?

I want to be the regular girl I am, to live my life day by day, sometimes morning by morning. One meal at a time, since other days that feels like such a struggle. I mean, if I was filthy rich, would I have a personal chef in my house? Probably. Though to be fair – I’ve learned to cook quite a bit this year (meaning, that I now cook other things than salad too).

But besides the glass box, super powers and salads – I did have a point in this text, or at least some more sentences for you to read.

Remember this: Happiness needs to be chosen every day all over again. And it’s not always about feeling joy. It’s also about being patient with yourself – to cut some slack and being realistic with your life.

And if that means a one day of self-doubt, anxiety and tiredness – so be it. They might not be the best feelings in the world, but they are yours and they come with the package. The one package, that life has perfected for you.

All you need to do is choose to pick it up.

happiness charlotta eve

photos Tiia Ennala

How is your life at the moment? I hope there’s not too much Christmas-stress?

Also – since we’re talking about Christmas packages – have you already participated in the giveaway on my facebook page? (For everyone living in Finland.)

Share:

30 Comments

  1. Kerona
    2017-12-19

    Loving the shots and the words of encouragement!!!
    http://www.mssparkleandglow.com

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-19

      Thank you <3

      Reply
  2. Courtney
    2017-12-19

    You look so gorgeous. I love these photos.
    http://sugarcoatedbears.blogspot.com/

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-20

      Thank you x

      Reply
  3. Hillory
    2017-12-19

    Love your photos from this post girl! Also this is such an amazing read!! Wishing you happy holiday girly!

    xo,

    H

    http://firsttimethings.com/

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-20

      Thank you – and happy holidays to you too x

      Reply
  4. NelliL
    2017-12-19

    Totta, että onnellisuus pitää valita joka päivä uudelleen. Minun lempivuodenaikani tämä ei ole ja odotankin kesää kovasti. Kesää ja aurinkoa.

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-20

      Kesä on kyllä niin ihana. Kun se koittaa, unohdan miten paljon rakastankaan sitäkin. 🙂 Talvessa on kyllä se hyvä puoli, että oppii ihan eri tavalla arvostamaan valoa ja lämpöä.

      Reply
  5. Johanna
    2017-12-19

    Pystyn samaistumaan. <3

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-20

      <3

      Reply
  6. Lola
    2017-12-20

    Love those photos!! Super cute xx

    Lola | http://thelushspot.com

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-20

      Thanks x

      Reply
  7. Minna M
    2017-12-20

    Sitä tulee oltua itseä ja omaa toimintaa kohtaan liian ankara ja vaativa. Huonoina päivinä pitäisi muistaa kannustaa ja tsempata itseään samalla tavalla kuin tsemppaisi ystäväänsä.
    Ihanaa jouluviikkoa! Minä yritän olla stressaamatta turhia. Saa nähdä, miten onnistuu.

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-20

      Nimenomaan – välillä on vaikea suhtautua itseensä niin kuin suhtautuisi läheiseensä. Ihanaa jouluviikkoa sinnekin! 🙂

      Reply
  8. Rosanna
    2017-12-20

    Great post and I really like your top, so pretty!
    Have a lovely day 🙂
    Rosanna x

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-21

      Thanks, you too x

      Reply
  9. wendee
    2017-12-20

    beautiful photos
    The Glossychic

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-21

      Thanks!

      Reply
  10. Paula
    2017-12-20

    Hyvää pohdintaa ja niinhän se menee, parempia päiviä varten tarvitaan välillä niitä huonompia.
    Hienosti tunnistat asioita itsessäsi, tuon valintataktiikan voisin ottaa myös oman elämäni pohdintoihin 🙂
    Hyvää ja rauhallista joulua Sinulle!

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-21

      Kiitos. Ihanaa joulua! <3

      Reply
  11. Minnea
    2017-12-20

    Ajatuksia herättävä teksti! Onni on tosiaan omissa käsissä, tai ehkä paremminkin asenteessa. Kuten sanoitkin, se täytyy valita joka päivä.

    Ihanaa joulunaikaa sinulle!

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-21

      Kiitos, samoin 🙂

      Reply
  12. sepatuholig
    2017-12-21

    Nice write up! empowering!
    I am in my last minute xmas shopping stress indeed, thanks for asking…
    Happy holidays dear…
    http://sepatuholig.blogspot.com/
    IG @grace_njio

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-21

      Haha, good luck with the last minute tasks. Happy holidays! x

      Reply
  13. Caitlin
    2017-12-21

    Love this !!!! Keep it up! Love reading your posts !

    http://www.caitlingolder.com/

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-23

      Thanks x

      Reply
  14. Federica Di Nardo
    2017-12-21

    You look beautiful <3

    Federica
    http://www.federicadinardo.com

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-23

      Thanks x

      Reply
  15. Narhee
    2017-12-23

    Gorgeous! Thanks for your lovely post (:

    Narhee | Made in Mauve

    Reply
    1. Charlotta Takkula
      2017-12-23

      Thanks x

      Reply

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Scroll to top